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June 10 TrustI got sugggested when talking to one of the most incredible person I have talked to on MSN the other day that I would write about trust on here. We were touching the subject in our conversation and I thought it was a great idea so I have started to think what to write about...
... trust, as the other subjects I like to blog about, does have so many different meanings but what I would like to focus on here is touching my favourite subject, relationships. Trust within a reationship and maybe trust IN the relationship itself, and the trust between the people involved.
I guess most of us agree on that if you have been 'bruised' many times here in life you will naturally become more reluctant to face the same situations and I believe that this is making us more reluctant to let us give out what is needed for others to have trust in us and also we are afraid of trusting someone, or something else.
So how do you trust someone? Again I want to point out that this is a very general blog and of course there are as many different kinds of trust as there are humans. Some people do trust others very easily (and sometimes foolishly) while others hardly ever leet anyone close. So where is the difference? why do some let others come close and others not, why do we feel more trusting to some while not others (even if you don't really know the persons that well or at all sometimes!).
And now to the main issue, is it possible to regain a lost trust? If you have loved someone, trusted that someone and believed in that someone, you thought it was you and that someone, nothing could stop you two. Then this other one turns to love someone else and you realize you have always been number two, never been that special one that you thought and you trusted to be. Now you get torn and loose all faith in this person and time elapses. This person returns to you later on and ask you again to get involved, now is this possible? Is it stupid to be saying 'no'? Me myself could not say 'yes', even though this person was meaning more than myself to me in a way and even the fact that I loved this one so dearly and that I never had had such a wonderful lovely time with anyone before, I still could not say yes, I just couldn't put myself in a situation where I was possibly gonna feel the pain again. Now is this stupid? I would like to welcome your thoughts.
Well, as usual this was thought to be a good idea to blog about and again I have managed to blur things up to a complete mess. Someday I might straighten things out!
And finally....
To the very interesting MSN contact I have that not only encouraged me to write this blog but that has helped me in other blog entries to clearify my thoughts and that is a source of many ideas, this wonderful person is so amazing and I say this with deepest respect even though I don't really know this person at all. This person is worth more credit than any of my words can give here, so I hope you know you have meant a lot even though we haven't spoken much. May 28 Lust or not?Lust So, I have taken this opportunity to write about lust, a subject that might upset, arouse, embarrasse or all of them. One thing for sure, no matter if you show it or not it will awaken a lot of feelings. Now why talk about lust? Well, primarly I think lust is something that is forgotten in many lives today. I will before getting more into lust take the opportunity to thank you all for the comments on my blog, and while I can I want to stress out that my blog is written mostly in a very very general mind. Having said that I probably have to point out that this blog about lust will be from a very subjetive view and I expect you all that get any feeling when you read this to comment :) So is lust forgotten? Yes I believe so, I think it is related to some of the issues that were touched in my blog entry about the game. Todays stress don't let us have that time that might be needed for lust but mainly I think people (in general) do lack the ability to really enjoy the erotic and sensual way of living. Again we are touching some relevant words and people do put a lot of different views into these words, such as love, lust, erotica, sensualism etc (thanks Garry and princessfrogett for your remarks touching this previously) but I will again write this in a very general way and leave the discussion about the words meaning to another blog entry. So if people lack the ability, then what is the ability? This probably has as many answers as people who read this but I would like to point out smoe small things that might be neglected and overseen but could work as a perfect entry to a more sensual world. One man and one woman.... alone and naked... 'sex' many of you will think, and with sex you will probably see some penetration and kissing, then two sweaty bodies tired after the performance. Try not to think sex, try to think touching, hovering with fingers over the other persons skin, try to imagine a moment just very very close without any meaning of penetrate, the smell of your partner, the feel of your skin together, the warmth and the feelings. Focus on the body without touching it, it is a painting, art that can not be touched, art that is for you to view and admire, and you are part of that painting, you are no object just being viewed but you are also the viewer. Of corse I am not stupid to think that the description above will suit everyone but I think people in many cases need to rethink to be able to feel much more, so if you have lost the feelings, you might want to rething and try something completely different, why not?
May 27 The GameI am sure many of you out there have read it, Neil Strauss' The Game (if you haven't I recommend you to read it, man as woman). I have heard many (specially women) say that it is so untrue and yet I have been seeing this work so many times myself. The essence in the 'search' for a person you are interested in is to play rather uninterested, let the other feel that there is a resistance and not to give in too easy. There should be a friction and to be really successful you should not only play uninterested but preferrably also be nasty and evil to the person. Many of you might say 'no' now, 'this is not how it works', but I have seen too many proves of this that I am prune to say that really, this is the truth.
So the difficulty here is that if you really like someone, you should act like you don't. How can you be cruel to someone that you really do like? This game which seems to increase is seemingly working for people that lack the passion and lust to some extent and the game is suitable for people that are able to feel little or nothing and only just play the game.
What about the 'nice guys'? The people that want to be close to someone, to feel the trust and to be trusted? The ones who are willing to put all they have into that special one, is these characteristics something that was belong to the past, to the chivalry?
Is the game a reflection of the current life style most of us have? Stressful, not being able to have time for all that we want? Is the game appropriate in such a period when time to really get into a relationship, time to let yoruself love someone, time to spend with another human is not there anymoer??
Who is the winner in such a game? May 20 Men vs WomenFirst, thank you for the comments on my previous blog items, appreciate them.
And now to a big topic that I would like to walk into. This topic is huge and I will probably spend a couple of blog entries for this but let's see how we can start. The topic: Men vs Women.
I don't know how many times I will have this discussion with people. Men and women are (generally speaking now of course... I am not that stupid to realize that there are variations but here we will do with the general man and woman, otherwise we could discuss details til we drop dead) so different, not only physical but also when it comes to the mind. I see this fact as a very positive one and am glad that we are different because there are pros and cons with both ways in different situations. What bothers me is that people seem to ignore this fact and are very surprised when they realize that they have misunderstood eachother. This is very obvious when it comes to relationship questions and many people have experienced that when they break a relationship they start to look back and really can't understand how the other person reacted, was looking at situations etc. We humans are biological creatures, I don't believe there is any 'me' that is in control, rather we are impulsive and are acting upon synapses signals traveeling and responses to these, all biological. We know for sure that the biological differences between men and women are quite big, thinking of hormoes etc. I think that all this adds up to huge differnces between men and women, both in terms of acting and behaving but also in thinking.
Hmm, I realize that all this became just a mess and no structure whatsoever but I hate erasign and redoing so instead I will try to write more about this another day when I can think more clearly.. just got a new subject on my mind when it comes to blogging that might be more interesting, "how cruelty wins in a relationship"... so look forward to taht :)
Thanks all that read this. May 17 Attraction and passionPassion, lovely word, many are in the search for real passion. But is it anything to strive for?
First of all we need to define 'passion'. Is it different from love? is it the same but in different phases? Or don't they have anything to do with eachother?
For me passion is not love but love could include passion. I think love i sa growing force within us, passion is the immediate rush within that don't allow us to think rationally. This rush is of course really positive for us and reinforcing the behaviour so many ppl I think are becoming 'addicted' to feel this passion. They need that rush and want to have that thrill that a passion mean. Unfortunately the passion is often not evolving into love (what is love? another topic to discuss) and the peopleare often not ready to stay that long to be feeling the love that might be.
Is this rush for passion a mirror of life today? noone is ready to settle down to see what a love relationship could bring? Or am I just being cynical and pessimistic about all this? Thanks for visiting!
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